One can vanish in a concealed fashion (Heidegger). We exists twice removed. That is, we present ourselves to ourselves but through another person. Understandably, we might want to vanish from the mind of the other. How would we judge normative statuses? How would civilization exist without understanding what is normal? We judge ourselves by recognizing it in the mind of someone else (Brandom). But by vanishing in the mind of the other, does this make us non-existing?
People are hell
Jean Paul Sartre was compelled to say other people are hell. There’s no way of knowing what is in the mind of someone else. But the Modus Operandi might make an account for it by existing as a non-existing object. This is the strategy of the non-image. We implant (incept) the Other with an image of a non-image. The Other likewise has to (under)over match this backwards stacking competition by vanishing harder. When we engage in insults we use both, precensing and non-precensing strategies. This double-impassé allows for both strategies to be used at the same time while they fundamentally contradict each other.
We observe that subjects undergoing an encounter through a shouting match might switch, in spirit, to the attitude of self-righteous attack-by-defence. This is especially true with adults that dismiss petty encounters as unproductive. Which is why popular culture (rap, hip-hop) is the greatest liberation against life-denying apollonian attitudes.
It is all about trust
What we are describing is the Christian notion of the “Holier than Thou.” It helps us look beyond the confrontation. It is what one takes home. When the fight is over, we often think about it like an obsessive compulsive. We would then conclude that it is this obsession that’s the problem. Alas! This is precisely how psychic repression works. Through representation! Our enemies wants us the think of them, thinking of us, thinking of them (again) as the winner. Vanishing then, might seem like a viable option. But it is running away from adventure. It remains to be the most destructive when we do not trust ourselves from ourselves.
Heidegger, Martin, “The Question Concerning Technology,” Basic Writings Ed. David Farrell Krell (Harper & Row, 1977).
Brandom, Robert, “Georg Hegel’s Phenomenology of Sprit,” Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2008.